Friday, February 22, 2008

On Expectations...

No expectations of others.
Expect the best from yourself.
- LaVeda H. Mason

Simple words, yet difficult concepts to grasp and master. I can't even pretend that I even truly understand this one, yet.

The above simply came to me when I was dealing with my disappointed expectations of other people. It keeps hitting me, over and over again, that I expect people to be like me, to do what I would do.

That is where my disappointed expectations are coming from.

So, what I need to do is stop having expectations of people. This means that I need to pay very serious attention to what they actually *do*, and not what they say that they will do. (When it comes to body language and non-verbal communication, many times I am totally clueless. It's something that I am training myself not to be so oblivious to.) I also need to behave/act on the information that I glean from this, because it tends to be fairly accurate.

When dealing with myself, I need to hold myself to a higher standard, and while I know that I am not perfect, and never will be, I *can* always reach and stretch to learn more, and do better.

I also am learning not to expect people to be supportive of my efforts. It is so easy in this busy world that we live in, to get caught up in the 'busyness', until there is no time for deep, supportive relationships. Or, you may find that your friends and family are threatened by your moving forward (which is their issue, but it can still sting), and aren't supportive.

So, when you are moving forward in your great adventure, pack some good books, videos, and MP3s, because there will be stretches of time where the only person who will be watching your work is you, and you cannot let that discourage you, or stop you.


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