Saturday, January 12, 2008

More on Fear…

This should have been posted ages ago… I know that I am still working on the Emotional Fear articles. 

This is actually pretty funny (strange). 

When it comes to physical stuff, I have no irrational fears (unless you count my fear of waterbugs, which my children love to pick on me about). 

I won't tell any stories about adventures that I have had, except to say that I have complete and unshakeable faith in my (admittedly imperfect) body and it's ability to do what I need it to do. 

But emotionally? I have discovered that there are many things that scare me to death. One by one, I have been facing them, and I'm finding that emotional stuff is 1000X worse than physical fear. 

Even when you know what you are facing, and the potential outcome(s), using my 'formula' in the Litany Against Fear, it still can leave you shaking in the corner, not doing the things that you know need to be done. 

Even when the cost of not doing them is extremely high. 

So, I will keep working on this; if you have any insights that you'd like to share, please post them in the comments, or email me at wyrdsmith at laveda dot info. 


4 opinions on this post:

Jen B said...

I think emotions are a fear of mine too. My worse fear that is not a physical fear is having someone hate me to the point of hurting me. I need to speak out and realize there are irrational people out there, there is nothing I can do about that but hope I can still be and express myself accordingly without that fear. I think blogging has helped me overcome many of my insecurities. Strangers have been great in helping me speak my mind!

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@Just Jen:

Isn't that so true? Blogging has been a big help to me as well... it has helped me to crystallize exactly what I think, and more importantly, why.

And, to be honest, I hadn't thought much about mental illness… hmmm... But, you are right. Having someone hate you so much that they would want to hurt you is really bad.

richgold said...

I've been reading a book by Rabbi Shmuley Boteach called 10 conversations you need to have with your children . He's a good, frank, easy to read writer and has talked about what a person needs to be grounded.

Just Jen's comments were what triggered my thoughts about this book. In the chapter I'm working through now, he talks about his son's experience with the unhappiness of rejection.

I'd started to read the book because I have children and could use all the help I can get. I'm realizing that the stories he tells are having an impact on *me* and are helping me come to terms/come to peace with some of my life experiences.

I'm borrowing my copy from the library.

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That sounds like a good book! I'll check it out (at my local library), and give it a read! I agree with you, lots of times, in trying to help our children, we wind up helping ourselves as well.